Thursday, April 21, 2011

Kate Mountbatten-Windsor?

When you say "I do", make it count.
 I can’t say I’ve attended to a lot of weddings: from the ones I can remember, I’ll tell you I’ve been to three…but there’s something about them that leaves me wistful, wishful for more. However, I’ve come to conclude that the real beauty in the weddings doesn’t come in the form of long, flawless dresses, playful banter, food galore, or diamond rings. Nah…for me, the real sign of a wedding is a name.
Name. Last name. The bride’s. It’s the fact that the girl has to trade her name, a representation of herself and the person she’s become, a symbol for the ones who love her, a definition of togetherness, for one so foreign, so different…so not hers.
I know many actors, actresses, neighbors…and the future bride to be Kate Middleton, won’t change their last names. Even I shudder at the thought of leaving behind a part of my dad. But…I think that’s a sign of love and moving on. To me, if you’re not strong enough to trust your significant other, leave behind an identity, and move on to a new life…well, sorry but you’re not ready for marriage.
Cohabitation these days is just as common as picking your nose. So what exactly is the point of “tying the knot” if you’re just going to go back to the old days, with not a single, tiny change in your mind set, in your way of life? Nothing, really.

Just my opinion: what do you think?



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  2. I completely agree with you. I love my last name and being 1 of two daughters, my Dad's last name will not carry on. I'm sad but I'm okay. I think it's beautiful to know that I'll live a life sharing names. :) I can't wait to get engaged and take my boyfriends name.

    Lovely post!

  3. I haven't been to many weddings either... but they sure are beautiful. Thanks for commenting on my blog! Let's follow each other then... :)

  4. Hahaha I seriously just laughed out loud- "Cohabitation is just as common as picking your nose" What a great point & I think that getting married means something more than living together. It is fun to think about the future too.

    Life As I See It.

  5. I don't know that I'm going to change my name. My last name is a hyphenated version of my mom and dad's last names, and I've always really like that. I'll probably drop my father's and hyphenate with my mother's. It's just a big part of me. It doesn't really have anything to do with trust; it's about losing a part of yourself.

  6. love this post! and in response to you request/question on my blog; i already have a post about oily skin that might help you out (link below), but i'll have a look around and see what I can find out and if I learn anything worth mentioning, i'll drop you a message :)

    p.s. sorry it took me so long to get back to you, i havn't been on blogger much

  7. I go back and forth on this. I think it's fine either way. I personally was excited to take on my husband's name, but I also know lots of ladies who have kept their own, or hyphenated with their husband's name!

  8. I totally agree. I love my last name but when I marry, I will have no hesitation of giving it up. To me, that's part of what a marriage is.